Blaming and Excuses
It’s not my fault!
It’s the weather.
It’s my boss.
It’s my inheritance.
It’s the political, government, and/or legal systems.
It’s my parents.
It’s the school systems.
It’s that there’s not a good medical or mental health practice in place.
It’s global warming.
How many times have you said the above statements?
We all blame and make excuses because blaming someone or something else gets us off the hook and makes us feel better. We blame and make excuses because being honest with ourselves and others means we’d have to be willing to be aware, accountable, and responsible for our actions and behaviors, and, honestly, we have a hard time doing that.
Blaming and making excuses are so rampant in our society that we think that it’s normal and acceptable. From broadcasters to politicians, and from parents to teachers, everyone blames.
“If everyone else can blame and make excuses, and that’s the norm, then why can’t I?”
Because blaming and making excuses are not promoting good mental health and positive Self-esteem. And, as my dad used to say, “If all your friends jumped off the bridge, would you jump off too?” To which, I would say “Of course not, that’s ridiculous!”
Yet, when you blame and make excuses, most likely you don’t feel good about yourself, you’re being the victim, and yet, you’re wanting to one up yourself by justifying your behaviors. And, the weird thing is, you think that we don’t know. News flash, everyone knows! We see it in your eyes and hear it in your voice. We know you aren’t speaking your truth or acting with integrity. It’s so ridiculous that no matter what comes out of your mouth, what we hear is, “blah, blah, blah, your dog just had kittens,” and we don’t believe you.
I know, it’s challenging taking responsibility for your actions and to be accountable for your behaviors. However, you have to be willing to stop blaming and making excuses by changing who you are. It’s no one else’s fault for anything! And, here’s another news flash, everything in your life (both good and not so good) is present due to your mindset. Stop complaining! If you don’t like your boss, change jobs. It’s not the weather’s fault you’re having a bad day! If you don’t like how things are with our laws and political system, then, don’t vote for the folks that make those decisions. It’s up to you!
I’m challenging you, as Mahatma Gandhi would say, to “Be the change you want to see in the world,” or as my departed friend Steve would say, the ten most powerful two-letter words are, “If it is to be, it is up to me.” I’m challenging you to stop blaming and making excuses. I’m challenging you to stop being the victim and start being the creator of your life. I’m challenging you to take up your baton and the next time you find yourself blaming someone or something for your problems, stop and see how you can take ownership, responsibility, and action. I’m challenging you to change the way you see, and change the way you live!