My grandma Nora used to say, “You know Gail, you get more flies with honey than you get with vinegar.”  

I believe most people would proclaim if asked, that there’s too much violence locally, and all over the world. Violence is in our schools, malls, shopping centers, theatres, streets, and political rallies! And yet, if everything is indeed in Divine order, then, perhaps this is what some folks need to wake up to recognize that violence never solves anything.  

If displaced violence weren’t so prevalent, then we wouldn’t have such unrest, upheaval, conflict, hate, anger, and blame. As a mental health professional, these feelings are normal; however, it’s never okay to cause harm or to lash out these feelings at anyone else! As soon as you or anyone else you know walks out the door with a weapon of destruction in hand, that’s the time to seek professional help! And in reality, as soon as you had the initial thought, that’s when you should have reached out.  

We need to remember to seek help, and we need to remember to always be kind to one another. As Fred Allen’s song says:  

“Be kind to your web-footed friends, 

For the duck may be somebody’s mother:” 

Is it really so hard to be kind? 

What makes us want to blame, have anger, push others away, and be superior? 

In a world of so much strife, wouldn’t it be better if we all would be kind to one another?  

Hate and anger get us nowhere! Hate and anger begets more hate and anger! And, if this were true, then, wouldn’t it be logical to say that love, peace, and kindness begets more love, peace, and kindness?  

Before we blame, before we pick up arms, before we speak words of hate, shouldn’t we stop? Literally, stop and think about how we can listen, have compassion, be at peace, love, and be kind to one another. Wouldn’t the world be a better place to live if we were kind to our web-footed friends? 

If we are kind, approving, blessing, being in gratitude of Self and others, then, we don’t have time to disapprove of others. I read in the book, The President is Missing that, in essence, we need to spend more time pumping up our love and gratitude into others and crank down our blame and anger.   

It’s always easier to find fault, to blame, to judge, to condemn. I encourage you to spend your time choosing to love yourself and others; be grateful; be kind; and do good! I challenge you to pump up the good and crank down the bad! In this way, you will change the way you see and change the way you live!  

Check the below list out and see if you can incorporate the positive column into your psyche, spirit, and being, and learn to let go of the negative ones.  

Acknowledge versus anger 

Blessed versus Blame 

Calm versus Control  

Devote verses Discriminate  

Empathy versus Exclusion 

Forgive verses fight 

Gratitude versus Grudges 

Hugs verses Hitting 

Inspire versus Intimidation  

Joy versus Judgement 

Kindness versus Killing 

Love verses loath 

Manifest versus Manipulation 

Nice verses Negative 

Optimism versus Opposition 

Peace versus persecute 

Quintessential verses Quack 

Relate verses rage 

Support verses Subordinate 

Trust versus Taint 

Urge versus ugly 

Victory versus violence 

Welcome verses wither 

Yield versus yell 

Zeal verses Zap  

Join me this week for the following events.  

Friday, July 19, Singing: Open Mic; Celebrating Emerging Singers event 

7:00 – 9:00 PM 

Unity Spiritual Center of Denver 

3021 S University BLVD., Denver CO 80210 

 

Saturday, July 20: Facilitating workshop: The Blind Elephant in the Room, Changing the Way You See and Relate to Others 

9:30 AM – 1:00 PM 

Unity Spiritual Center of Denver 

3021 S University BLVD., Denver CO 80210  

Online registration beforehand is required