So often it is hard for us to take charge of our lives. Especially the more characteristics one has. I’m blind, white, woman, senior, Democrat, member of the Silent Unity Church and more. I have been physically and sexually abused, depressed, suicidal, low income, and was once in a long-term-lesbian relationship. All these minorities can either keep me separate and/or bring me closer together with my fellow humans.

The more we keep ourselves hidden and separate, the more we let others control our lives. It is time to take our power back and to take charge.

Taking charge doesn’t mean to cause harm to others either physically or mentally. To take charge is to sit at the table with others and gently let them know who we are and how what they say and do effects us. I wrote in my memoir, Soaring Into Greatness, in the section titled Pearls of Wisdom:

“Keep fighting. Keep fighting in an assertive, not aggressive, way. Fight with hands of clay, not stone. Fight with words of soft rain, not fire. Don’t stop fighting for the right to be the same as other folks. Society, family, and friends have a difficult time seeing you as the same as them, with real thoughts and feelings. It is up to you to educate them so they will see you as “normal.” Be gentle with them and patient with your Self. Stand up for you and sit down with others over a cup of tea and talk. Much is gained and learned through honest, open communication. Be responsible and accountable, yet be willing to serve and take action. Hold your head up high, stand tall, be strong, and be flexible. Be open to opportunities that come your way, for you never know what’s on the other side of the door; most of the time it is friend, not foe.”

Too many times people equate taking charge with their right to bully or cause harm. There’s a saying in the psychology field: “one can’t cause harm to Self or others.”

Taking charge means owning and taking responsibility for your Self. Taking charge means being accountable for your actions. Taking charge means respecting Self and others. Taking charge means stepping boldly, confidently, and proudly into your characteristics. You are who you were born to be! There isn’t anything wrong with you! And, in fact, there is everything right with you!

I challenge you to take charge of your characteristics, wear your badges proudly, and let others see your light. For you are unstoppable, unforgettable, and unbelievable.