Do you speak your truth?

If not, how come?

Often times we don’t speak our truth for we don’t want to face the consequences that our words may cause. We may hurt someone. The other person may not like us! Or, God forbid, they may cause some physical violence against us! There can be repercussions, right?

Yet, when we hold back from being honest with ourselves and with others, we are causing harm to all involved. Now, I’m not saying to be angry, to lash out, or to intentionally cause harm. You don’t have that right! However, if another person asks for your feedback—and only then—it is your obligation to speak your truth.

How often have you provided your feedback without the other person asking for it? Or, in other words, how often have you tried to “fix” the other person? This is not your job; as much as you’d like to do so. Their path is theirs alone to traverse. You have no idea what their life lessons are.

So, in this case, speaking your truth goes against the first of The Four Agreements by Don McGill Reese 1997.

1. Be impeccable with your word. Power your word in the direction of truth and love.
2. Don’t take anything personally. Nothing others do is because of you.
3. Don’t make assumptions. Have the courage to ask questions and clarification from others.
4. Always do your best. No matter what.

In the recent past, spiritual Truth and political truth have been promoted to be the same. They are not! Spiritual truth (outlined above) is paramount. Political truth needs to be founded in fact and based on current social circumstances. We don’t have to agree with what the other person says; however, we have to agree to be able to disagree in a respectful manner. And, if you are following The Four Agreements, then, your actions will follow what is spiritual law.

It’s important to note that Your Truth is always found in your heart, never your ego/head. You know when your head is trying to speak truth when you find yourself having to be right! At these times, it’s important to step back, pause, breathe, listen, and practice a little reframing back to the other person what they are trying to say. Tap into your heart—that’s always where truth lies.

I challenge you to review The Four Agreements, or read the book, and see if you are speaking your truth. There may be an area where you need work. That’s okay. We all have more evolving to do! However, if you follow these agreements, then you will change the way you see and change the way you live.