
Pillar of Authenticity
Recently, I was chatting with a friend who was having relationship difficulties. I told her she sounded like she was standing in quicksand, drowning in the tornadic chaos of her friends. “What you need to do is to stand in your pillar of authenticity.”
“What do you mean?”
“I mean, you need to stand tall, take your power back, and be authentic with yourself and with your friends and family.”
“Yes, and how do I do that?”
Hmm, this got me thinking.
How many times do we find ourselves drowning because we want to please the other person?
How many times do we say yes to others and yet no to ourselves?
How many times do we take on problems of those we care about?
How many times do we want others to change and be the way we want them to be?
How many times do we take responsibility for what others should be taking responsibility for?
How many times do we try and fix other people?
How many times do we try to protect others from life’s pains or circumstances?
How many times do we try to rescue other people from life’s harm?
How many times do we try to control others?
How many times do we try to carry other’s feelings?
If we do too much of these behaviors, that’s a sure recipe for standing in quicksand.
I can assure you doing these things most probably leaves us tired, anxious, fearful, and liable. Though we’re at times compelled to, we don’t have to have the solutions or answers for every problem or situation under the sun. Nor do we need to be always right. Bogging ourselves down in the details, performing for others, manipulating, and/or expecting others to live up to our expectations all are signs of slipping into deeper and deeper quicksand.
In order to stand on solid ground and be the pillar of authenticity we must:
Be willing to be in honest, respectful, trusting, and communicative relationships with one another.
Show empathy and be sensitive to one another
Encourage each other
Share our vulnerabilities and feelings with others
Gently confront each other when necessary
Have equal/leveling person to person relationships with others
Always be willing to listen to others no matter their viewpoints
When we stand in our pillar of authenticity, we find ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually relaxed and free. We become aware of our Selves, our Beings, and others as Beings of light beautiful and bright. We recognize ourselves and others as worthy. And, we always commend and applaud others and their feelings.
I challenge you to share yourself with others. I challenge you to allow the other people in your life to make their life decisions without your assistance. I challenge you to be a helper/guide and to expect the other person to be responsible FOR him/herself and his/her own actions. I challenge you to be the pillar of authenticity. Be willing to trust and to let go for in this way, you will change the way you see and change the way you live!
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