Listen with ears of Harmony and Compassion
How many times are you in a conversation with someone and you find your mind moving forward to what you want to say once the other person has stopped speaking? Or, how many times has the other person stopped talking and is waiting for a response from you and you are staring blankly into space?
Either way, you likely aren’t actively listening. We all do this at one time or another. Your mind is focusing on the future or past – being distracted, trying to fix, wanting to be right, and possibly even criticizing, blaming, being angry, judging, analyzing, or finding fault.
Once you become aware of your thoughts, the trick is to let go and come back to the moment and Listen with ears of Harmony and Compassion.
In my world as a blind person, where my ears are how I see and perceive others, I have learned the following:
- Turn on your ears! Be present and focus on what the other person is saying. Active listening takes practice to master. Breathe, and concentrate on the words of the other person. Put yourself in their shoes. Respond only when the other person has stopped speaking.
- Before jumping to conclusions in which you are intent on aligning theirs with yours, ask the person to say more. This will allow them to think about what they are saying and will help you learn what their perspective is.
- Share opinions equally and respectfully. It’s helpful to remember that both of you may be right (or wrong). There is room enough in the world for both your opinions. And, it’s okay to agree to disagree.
- State opinions in an honest, open manner. You are entitled to your opinion; however, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it. Words do convey thoughts. If your thoughts are kind and loving, most likely that will be the words which fall out of your mouth. However, if your words are fear based or out of anger then that is what will be spoken. No matter what, be kind and loving.
- Realize both sides have worth and value. You both were born with purpose. All opinions are okay. Be the creator of your destiny not the destroyer of it. See what and how much you can learn from the conversation.
Let me leave you with this great excerpt from a speech by Marianne Williamson,:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”